Lovefly Blog - Free 30 min Class Sunday 21st March 2021

Join us on Sunday 21st March 1000 UK time as we talk about fear of flying and hypnosis.  

Paul Tizzard has been trained in this for over 30 years...I don't use it anymore with nervous flyers but, I know that a lot of people do and...find it really helpful.  This 30 min free class will cover:

• What it is
• How it helps people
• A mini demonstration

To be part of this, please join our facebook group 'Lovefly Overcome Fear of Flying'

Hope you can make it...

Paul and the Lovefly Team

Lovefly® Blog - Challenge or Threat

 

Challenge or Threat?

I was in a clubhouse room this week listening to various authorities talking about facing fear. One individual summed up something brilliantly, something which I have attempted to explain for years.

It went something like this:

When you are facing something which is potentially scary for you, what do you think about it. Essentially, two people facing the same thing will have completely different reactions.  For example, if you are about to get on a roller coaster and you are scared, what happens next to you depends on one thing.  Do you consider the roller coaster a threat or a challenge?  This fundamental difference in attitude is critical. If you consider it a threat,  you will have adrenaline and will probably want to run away. If you consider it a challenge, you will have adrenaline and move towards the roller coaster.  The Doctor, that explained this, did so much more eloquently than this. 

However, it got my thinking about fear of flying again and how important it is to get our minds right. To get our thought processes helping us move towards the fear. So, perhaps, this is a good reminder then?  Maybe, if you were to think of flying as facing a challenge, not a threat?  You might still have similar feelings but, you would be in an action mindset rather than a run away mindset?

Challenge or threat...you decide.

Paul, Fear of flying coach

Lovefly Team

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Lovefly® Blog - The Power of Yet

 

The power of the word YET.

Been thinking about this recently...Many people tell us:

'I don't like flying...'

'I am not sure I will ever truly like flying...'

Growth Mindset Thinking

Professor Carol Dweck teaches us the difference between a fixed and a growth mindset. This is covered in our latest book by the way. (download for free below)  The most powerful way to think about your fear of flying could be this...

• You were not born with a fear of flying, you learned it.  It is never too late to learn new habits and behaviours
• Every time you say to yourself, 'I am not feeling safe when I fly' or, 'I don't like flying.' Please add YET in your head or, out loud to the end of the sentence.

This is a very powerful word. It offers hope and gives you permission to accept that you are 'work in progress.'  Beating a fear is a journey, a process - it takes a different amount of time for each person.  This is okay.  Don't give up.  

Perhaps, one day, you will love flying but, not quite, yet.

Take care,

Paul and Lovefly Team

P.S. if you missed the Facebook Live on Sunday 28th February, you can watch it again by joining Facebook Group 'Lovefly Overcome Fear of Flying.'

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Lovefly® Blog - Engine Failure

Been monitoring the news since United Airlines flight 328 suffered engine problems recently...

Some of the headlines are nothing short of shameful.  For example, one media source wrote, 'United Airlines Boeing suffers catastrophic engine failure.'

I am not denying that the engine images have been quite dramatic.  However, the use of the word 'catastrophic' is too much in my opinion. That word is used to sell papers/encourage downloads. 

The main problem for me is that the headlines lack perspective.  These engines are just so amazing, powerful and reliable.  Look at the picture above. I cannot tell which engine type it is but, just look at the sheer size of it.  These engines are a feat of science which is why incidents like this are so, so rare.

So, what can you do:

1. Stop looking at the images as they just 'feed the fear.'
2. Remember that all pilots are trained to deal with an engine failure and that is exactly what these pilots did.
3. There are so many back up procedures and processes in place.  When something as rare as this happens, we all know what to do.
4. This incident will be investigated. All findings will be public. All findings and recommendations will be shared within the global aviation community.

Paul 

Lovefly Team

Lovefly® Blog - The Five Pillars

Join me February 14th 1000 UK on a Facebook Live which will be streamed through our Facebook group, 'Lovefly Overcome Fear of Flying' Here is a link

This is a newly relaunched group which we have created to provide continuing support for anyone with a fear of flying.  Please join me and I will share what I have learned by being a fear of flying coach for over 25 years...

The Five Pillars

Pillar no.1 – Fear of flying is not innate.

Pillar no.2 – Your commercial aviation knowledge has some gaps!

Pillar no. 3 – Fear of flying is not irrational, sort of.

Pillar no.4 – As humans, we learn to laugh at ourselves.

Pillar no.5 – You are disrespecting yourself.

These are the areas that I will be covering in my 30 minute Facebook Live... in more detail than my book.    Hope you can join us...

Take care,

Paul & Lovefly Team

P.S. If you would like a free copy of my book, click here

Lovefly® Blog - How Fear of Flying Created and Maintained

You know that your fear of flying has been created at some point in your life...it is not something  you arrived into the world with.  This you know.  

But how does it actually get created?

My very strong belief is that fear of flying is learned - just like you have learned anything.  

For example... Typing

1. In the beginning, you cannot type
2. You 'make do' by doing one or two finger typing
3. This, you decide, is not particularly efficient or helpful to your life
4. So, you decide to do something different...
5. Then, you might take some lessons, it is clunky but you are starting to learn
6. You get quicker, you must practice, repeat it and give it effort and time
7. In time, you can type and it is hard to type the old way - but, you must practice it frequently to keep the learning in place
8. It is now a pattern, a habit that is carved into your brain and your muscle memory

I would put to it to you that, learning a fear of flying is the same.  You learn it at some point - you might not remember the first lesson or, maybe you do.

Then you maintain this new fear you have learned by practicing and repeating.  This then becomes a habit or a pattern that is learned by your brain and body.

Here is the good news...You can always learn new methods.  My top tip of all top tips when it comes to starting a new habit is...to Start!

Many people just avoid it. But,  you are not that person...you are reading this.  You have started and are well on your way to getting rid of this old habit and nurturing a new habit or pattern.

Keep going :) 

In case you missed it, I did a Facebook Live on this topic which I turned into a podcast too.  Here are some links:

Podcast link or find us on Spotify, Amazon Music etc. Search 'Lovefly Fear of Flying'

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveflyhelp

Take care,

Paul

Fear of Flying Coach

Lovefly